A Visit From Caitlin

When Sarah and I first began the adoption process, we were constantly asked by everyone involved how we felt about open adoptions. While there are different levels of openness, we agreed we were open to discussing anything, but would not make any promises we could not keep. When we met Caitlin, we agreed to send pictures the first few weeks and every year on Leah's (then Caleb's) birthday. We also agreed to invite her to the blessing. Those were promises we could make and we entered the relationship with every intention of delivering what we promised.

We immediately felt a closeness to Caitlin, and not only because she was giving us this amazing gift. She is a neat girl. As each day and week progressed toward the delivery day, we got to know her more. We met for dinner a couple times, and the three of us called and texted each other constantly. We grew to develop a sincere concern for Caitlin and her future. After Leah was placed with us, we reminded each other what obligations we had each made in regards to the open adoption. At this point, we were more committed than we could have ever imagined.
We knew it must be a hard thing that Caitlin had just done for Leah and herself and for us. We wanted to make sure that we could do whatever we could to help Caitlin in the emotional healing process she was about to begin. We continued to text her and occasionally call her in addition to sending photos like we initially promised. We slowly stopped texting and calling her, but made it very clear she could contact us whenever she needed. She still texts to this day. Last week she asked if it would be okay if she met with us again to give Leah a Christmas present. We agreed.
Saturday, Caitlin came to our house with her parents to meet Sarah's and my families. After a short visit with them, our families left and we were able to allow Caitlin to spend some time with Leah. It was a good day. Caitlin is healing, but she is frustrated with how slow the process is. We hope she endures it well and works towards moving forward in her life. She admits she is bummed at times, but never once has regretted her decision. She loves us and she loves Leah and she knows she did the right thing. We hope and pray for guidance daily for knowledge of how to best proceed.

Caitlin, we love you and pray for you daily. Thank you, again!